Though the scenarios are vast and often quite complicated, the outcome remains the same.
The price of not letting go is far too high, and lacks value, when we rationalise the outcomes resulting from our inability to recover from the pain of rejection. It may be that you were overlooked for a promotion, the breakdown of an intimate relationship or a close friendship, or having been left off the team when you had high expectations of being involved. The thought of rejection plays havoc with our emotions and can lead to catastrophic outcomes when we act mindlessly and make decisions to seek revenge or retaliate.
No one escapes rejection, but understanding how it affects us offers us the opportunity to lessen its impact. Once again, it’s the triggering of our ego that causes the problem, and it’s a problem that most of us fail to deal with throughout our lifetime. Our ego promotes negative response and causes us to take a defensive attitude when we find rejection offensive. We do this through judging a situation as negative, rather than taking a neutral stance whereby we can view the outcome wholistically, looking at all sides or viewpoints.
Rather than using judgement, try acceptance. Understand that life occurs independently of our wishes and desires, and through acceptance of that, we can save ourselves and others the heartache we produce through negative action. Reflect on how often you have reacted negatively to what you judged as “bad news” and try to recall the pain or discomfort it caused through your inability to let it go. Now expand on the greater quality of life you could experience if you could learn to replace judgement with acceptance, and only utilise your ego for positive experiences. Let it go, move on, live life!!