Missing Them

The recent passing of a close friend brought my attention to the grieving process we enter, upon facing someone’s death, the break up of a loving relationship, or the passing of a treasured pet.
That hollow, empty feeling of loss triggers no end of emotional trauma, and regardless of the well meaning wishes of those around us, we continue to suffer in pain.
Having felt the tsunami of grief envelop me at the passing of my partner some years ago, I was in a unique position to deeply question my practice of acceptance and belief.
For a number of days I was losing, unable to lift myself from the bed and completely unwilling to face the day and what further pain it may hold.
I really felt abandoned by my beliefs, that when I needed to be my strongest I was crumbling, and that all I’d studied and invested my core belief in, was false.
Finally at the point of emotional, physical and spiritual exhaustion, I relented and stopped fighting…I had hit the bottom. I slept peacefully and awoke to a new dawn completely energised and ready to deal with what was in front of me.
By letting go I realised that I had been fighting “what is”…I had gone away from my knowledge of acceptance and fell into the trap of anger, resentment, blame and all manner of egotistically driven emotions.
Had I been completely present I may have been conditioned enough to avoid the pitfall, but I don’t believe my spiritual capacity was great enough at the time to avoid my painful experience.
To this day I have maintained my faith in the many spiritual Master’s teachings, and I realise I had to experience what I did to learn and grow.
You will never stop missing them and nor do you want to, but through the acceptance of “what is”, we can move through the pain.
“What is” is that which occurs in every moment of every day, otherwise known as life. Allow acceptance to reduce your suffering.